Our home teachers came over today and brought an EFY video with them. On the video there was the sweetest chick from BYU Hawaii who pulled some sick, mad tricks on her surfboard in the ocean in Hawaii (how sweet is my surfer lingo? Or is that snowboarding lingo? Oh well! What matters is that you know I am hip on this young stuff) Anyway, this chick competes in surfing competitions and she talked about how she cannot control the ocean or the weather, but she has learned to adapt to the constant changes of both and she is able to remain standing. This analogy struck a scary chord with me…My little girl starts Preschool this week.
And I am having myself a little freak-out.
I know I'm being silly. I mean every parent sends their child to school, and freak, it's not even real school—it's Preschool, for heaven's sakes. However, it's the first time I do not know who the kids are, their parents, their background, etc, etc. And she goes four days a week for 4 hours a day…my feelings are very conflicted.
The girl needs this. She turns five only 8 days too late to enter Kindergarten this year, so she's not ready for Elementary school. But I feel like she's getting so old and she needs the socialization and the challenge school will give…but she's also just a little hobbit…
So, what does surfing have to do with Brinley? I guess I'm just trying to reconcile myself to the fact that I can't control her environment. I can't control what other kids do or say, but I can send her out into the world with as much spiritual strength as possible, hoping she will adapt and say strong even when things are out of her control.
Bah! Being a Mom stresses me out. Inadequacy alone is enough to accept the two I've got is enough and call it a day…oh man.
So on a scale of 1 through 10, how big of a baby am I right now: 10 equaling I am still nursing…
Alright, enough of the dramatics. I'm out. Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
18 comments:
Ahhh, it will be all right! You are teaching her everything she will need to know to holdup just fine. Armour those kids well and all will be well. Out here, kids are in Kindergarten at age 4. (Our deadlines on Dec. 31) But, you are no baby... and hey at least you aren't nursing the kid! She'll be fine! Enjoy watching her make all those new little friends.
I had this feeling a few weeks ago when Xander picked up the phrase, "Oh my G..." (Sorry not sure how is the correct way to say that respectfully and get my point across). EVERYONE here says it all the time, even people that work with the kids at the library, etc. It has given us great opportunities to talk about the commandments and using our agency to make right choices. Containing them in a morally sterile bubble would probably be my first choice, but even if it was possible, that would only make them weak.....
She is going to do so good Kris. She is so beautiful and smart and she knows the rules. She'll be ok. I love that little girl.
I am SO with you! Kaitlin starts preschool next week. The teacher is my friend and I know most of the kids, but I am still uptight. I am already having a coronary about kindergarten next year. Even though we are worried sick, our kids will have a great time. I swear whenever I was teased or had a bad day, it was 10 times worse on my mom. Yikes! it's scary to let them out in the world.
I so know what you mean. My daughter came home the first day of kindergarten and called her brother a butt head, nice. Just wait until she sings
Mommy and daddy kissing in a tree
kissing, first comes love, than comes kissing, than comes the baby in the baby carriage, that's not all that's not all, here comes the baby drinking alcohol. Yeah that was a great time.
We have just told our kids that if they hear something at school or somewhere they aren't sure they will never get in trouble with saying it to us to ask us if it is okay, or what it means. That helps.
I think we all feel like this, that is why for me it is so important to have family am prayer, and my own personal am prayer to help protect them.
Now being a baby, nah we all cry and scream and freak out when our child goes to school. Than about two weeks later, we are screaming and yelling at how awesome it is to get things done, have alone time with another child. Enjoy the day.
So fun for Brinley to start preschool. Crazy stuff. I wish our home teachers brought videos of surfer chicks. I wanna see.
Wow-we were mentally linked last night! Preschool was almost just as hard as kindergarten for me. Aubrey did a 2 day a week preschool last year, but it was like almost a full day. It was SO good for her. Brinley will love going and it will be a great preparation for her for Kindergarten. So, her birthday is Sept.8? Aubrey's is Sept. 10. So, she is one of the older ones too, which is great. I didn't know any of the teachers or kids at her preschool either so that was freakin me out last year too. But it was great, a great experience, and you'll be so glad you did it. And it will make starting Kindergarten next year much easier and you'll be comforted knowing that she is used to the whole classroom/teacher/kids thing already. You're not being a baby at all. I'd give you a 3:) Hope your morning went well. Ours did! I made it:)
I haven't been where you are, but I can only imagine. You are not being a baby. As excited as we are as parents for our kids to grow and learn and all that jazz, we still want them safe and protected and maybe even small. But what a smart girl Brinley is! She'll probably have the time of her life and you are right, you have taught her well, she'll make good decisions. Good luck!!!
Kristi, she'll do amazing. She'll dazzle all the teachers with her skills & everyone will think "what a great mom she has!" and her teacher will love her, cause how could she help but?
kristi, I'm not gonna lie to you. It was tough those first few days for me to just turn around and leave Will there. It is difficult to realize that your babies don't NEED you as much as they used to. You hope that the teachers will think you child is as fantastic and special as you KNOW they are. It's wonderful and sad at the same time. It gets WAY easier though. Now I just slow down the car and give em' a little shove :)
Oh girl. I was soft at one time...a few kids ago, so I know what you are thinking. It's hard to let them go, but she will be amazing. Pre-school is going to be great for her, and next year won't be as bad as you think (at least that's what I think). I'm thinking of Hayden today at school, but it's with a smile on my face, not that i'm only happy to "get rid of him", but because I know he is ready and he will have a great day!!
i'm so with you. i don't want to send my baby out into the big bad world. i only have 2 more years with her! bah! homeschooling, maybe? we'll move onto a commune and homeschool our kids together. maya will marry braden. brinley will marry mason (she won't mind that he's 4 years younger, will she?). yeah. remember my favorite quote: "a ship's safe in harbor. but that's not what ships are for." that doesn't mean we have to like it!
Kristi, she will be fine. She really will. It's so hard to watch them go the first time (and all the other times after, for that matter) but like others have said, you have given her a great foundation, she knows who she is and that she is loved -- and she will come home to you full of excitement and having learned some wonderful things. Then you will build her up and send her back out -- and over time, with your help, she will become exactly who you hoped she would and you will have what I do -- a beautiful, bright, happy daughter who is also your friend. Send her out and she will fly.
I'm right there with you this is Jessi second year and in a diffrent pre-school. And I'm still freakin' out. Her first year I cried the whole time she was gone. I took her in and she said " okay, bye mom" and didn't even care I was gone. The worst day for me though was when she told me I could walk her in anymore, she was big enough to go by herself. :( So she'll probably do great, but you'll probably struggle!
Oooh, I love Natalie's quote. We all need copies of Nat's quote books!!!
That's a great message Kristi. You're such a wonderful mom. Whatever we weather today, we can have faith that we can take on more challenging situations in the future. It's a character builder for sure.
Stella starts preschool in a few weeks and I'm devastated. I've been praying and praying about it, talking to other Moms (which makes me more confused). My husband wants her in preschool. I want her in preschool but at the same time don't. She still is so pliable. I feel like she still needs a strong foundation. She's still young, barely turning three end of September.
I had been debating the preschool thing...Micah turns 4 in Dec. Luckily a lady in my ward is home preschooling her child and offered her home for all the Sunbeams. I am hesitant, because I really don't know all the families well. I can only hope for the best. I am sure Micah and Brinley will enjoy every minute and grow alot.
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